Have more fun Making Friends:

Everyone wants to have more friends, right?

Not just any type of friend, but good friends; the type that understand you, the ones that support you, the friends that make you laugh and sometimes cry.

In the digital age, we’ve gotten really good at creating surface level friendships, but are struggling to develop that deep personal bond with people around us.

Luckily for you, if you’re looking to make friends, there are hundreds of millions of people also looking for friends just like you.

I’m going to give you a few tips on how to find them and turn them into the type of friend you’re looking for.

HOW TO have fun Making Friends:

Step 1: Find a hobby or social group that you enjoy.

Joining a group or club significantly increases your opportunities to meet new people, doing something that you actually like. Run clubs are extremely popular at the moment, but there are also other things to do like pottery, martial arts, dance. You name it, there is a community of people doing it.

Step 2: Go often.

The first time may be a little intimidating, as you enter a new space, but don’t give up. Go again and go with the intention of making friends and have fun with it. Just walk up to people and say hi, it may feel weird, but like I said earlier, there are hundreds of millions of people out there looking for friends.

Step 3: Be interested, not interesting.

The common misconception is that you’re supposed to be interesting, but the truth is, people are attracted to those that are interested and curious in learning about them. In 1994, a study showed that people with active listening and empathy are more likable. It’s plain and simple, ask questions and get to know people. Don’t just talk about you all the time, that will repel people.

Step 4: Reciprocate

When the other person asks you questions, answer them honestly, vulnerably and authentically. Don’t try and look good or give an answer you think the other person wants to hear. That’s surface level sh*t. If you want to make deep connections, be deep in your connection. Remember, have fun with it, you can’t mess it up.

Step 5: Rinse and repeat

Find new hobbies, join new groups, remember there are hundreds of millions of people that are looking for friends and want to be your friend. Don’t let them down by staying inside.

WHY have fun Making Friends:

We’re in a loneliness epidemic in America and 30% of people say they experience loneliness at least once a week, and it’s getting worse. With individualism, remote work and social media, we’ve constructed our lives to be lonely even though we are social beings. Learn how to not only make friends, but maintain friends and you will live an unbelievably fulfilling life.

I’m so grateful that you chose to have more fun in life and look forward to sharing many more ways to do it.

Until next time,

Joel

PS. I was inspired to write on this topic after listening to a Diary of a CEO Podcast w/ Simon Sinek. Give it a listen here.

PSS. I used to be stressed out, struggling financially, stuck in my career and then I decided to actually start enjoying life by inviting fun into my every day. The results of fun shifted not only my personal life, but my relationships, finances and career. If you’re interested in learning how I work with clients, respond to this email! :)